Friday, September 17, 2010

The Trouble with Blogging

Hey folks,
I know I have been very VERY inconsistent with my blogging.
That's the trouble.
I actually write more than you might think I do.. but I always end up saving them as drafts.. thinking who would want to read this.. it's only me that finds it interesting.
I also struggle with what to focus my blog on.. I have changed it many times.. and just have not found my niche. I need some sort of focus or theme to my blog.
I think I may brainstorm right now about some ideas...tell me which you think is a good fit for me or that I should try.

1. A blog about my daily lessons.

I think that's good. That is what my blog will focus on for the time being.. we will see how that works out.

I will blog from now on at least 3 times a week. even if it's a short blog. We will see how long I can keep it up. Perhaps reading up on some blogs will inspire me!
And... of course.. another blog makeover. I always love that.

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Premarital Bliss

Less than 3 weeks!
I can't believe it!
I want it to come fast for more reasons than even the obvious.
I cannot wait to marry Jake, but I also cannot wait to be done with all the wedding prep.
I mean it is the beginning...when you are dreaming and planning..but in order to make those dreams and plans a reality, there requires work, a lot of work.
we have decided to do a real DIY wedding.
From the food to the music to the favours, programs, invites, tablecloth, place setting, decorating, (ALLLL decorating) altering my dress, the boys attire, stressing about last minute changes to accommodations, it all seems....exhausting!!!
anyways, I should really not complain because my mom and others as well as Jake have really done a lot of work as well.
Rachelle engraved a beautiful vase for our sand ceremony!
Jake made the monogram for the invites which I made
Jake and I made the pew bows together this weekend
Jake made the music mix for the dancing
My mom and I made all the bouquets
My mom shopped for and bought all the plates, silverware, fabric for tablecloths, and decor
My mom and I made puffy tissue paper giant flowers to hang
My mom tied ribbon on all the bubbles
My mom put together all the favours
My mom and I have been experimenting with our wedding cake (another DIY)
Jake made the programs...very cute! he drew flowers on them. cute.
Jake is also working on making the slideshow..he is great!

I bet there is lots more.. but I am too tired to think of it all. Basically..I think it will be a very unique wedding, a little less traditional perhaps. I think we will have a wedding that represents us very well.

So. I can't wait till we work on more stuff tomorrow and hopefully get stuff done so we can take a breather before the wedding.

Good night. I was actually going to talk about premarital counseling and what I learned.. but I am much too tired and need my sleep. I feel grouchy today. sooo goodnight world!

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Wierd Dreams

I don't know about you, but I am definitely a dreamer. I day dream as well as regular in your sleep dream. Lately, well for about the whole summer so far, I have been having the craziest dreams. I can now only remember bits and pieces of some. Allow me to give you an example of my crazy dreams.

I am dressed in some ridiculous warrior outfit, not the kind that pocahontas might be seen wearing, but more of a Xena the warrior princess kind of look. I am not the only one looking like I'm being cast for the movie Gladiator, everyone around me is wearing the same type of armor. It was a battle. I am not sure what we are fighting for but I knew in my heart I had to fight with all I had. I am looking to catch up with Jake in the battle although he told me specifically not to be around the danger. Suddenly, I am struck with a disc shaped something with blades all around it. It sinks halfway through my chest, but the pain is not there. Just extreme pressure. I know I have to keep fighting and am thinking that if I leave the blades in there I might have a chance at survival. To take them out would probably result in death. I keep fighting but notice that I am slowing down and the pain is starting to take over. I don't want to stop fighting because the battle is important but I decide to lay down. I think that lying down will ease the pain and hopefully I would die relatively quickly and with as little pain as possible. As I was being helped to lie on the ground I awoke out of my dream. The End.

Last night I had a dream that I can barely remember now. I am on a spaceship type looking...building.. or maybe it was a spaceship.. i cant remember. anyways, the one thing I kinda remember about the dream is that someone had died and there was a blue person, i think it was an alien, and they held a small person in a bubble that appeared to be sleeping. The blue alien said that the person was going to be released out the window. I was sad that the person was dead but the blue alien said that the life they were living before was not really real. (something like that) and that his soul is what matters, not the body.

there was alot in that dream.. but I can't remember any of it really now. I need to write them down in the morning, cuz I could get some good story ideas.. haha.

Friday, June 25, 2010

The Richest Woman in the World

They say that Diamonds are a girl's best friend. I say, if the best friend you have is an allotrope of carbon you are living a sad, sad existence. I am aware that I am taking this statement a bit too literal, but the point I am trying to make is that wealth cannot and will not buy you happiness. We have all heard it before, but I am going to tell you from my personal experience and observations how this is so true.

My mom had met a woman on Pelee Island who was collecting stones with her son. For some reason the woman felt like opening up to my mom and explained how she was from the US, here on vacation with her boy. She felt like they needed a vacation because her marriage was and had been falling apart. She had married a very wealthy plastic surgeon. She admired his ambition, the security he provided and also receiving many luxuries that the average woman would never have. What she was not receiving was the kind of love from her husband that a wife deserves. He could give her anything material she wanted, trips and vacations to Europe and exotic destinations, but what she wanted most was to be loved. She admitted that she did love her wealth but she would trade it all in a heartbeat to have the kind of love she so envied in some of her friends' marriages. You see, the woman's husband had a mistress. The woman knew about her, but she chose to "accept it". It's been years since her husband has been continually unfaithful and my heart goes out to her. I'm not sure why she has put up with it, perhaps she feels trapped by her wealth, that she can't give up her security, I am not sure.
I am not saying that people with less money will automatically have wonderful marriages since this kind of circumstance does not just happen to people at a certain income level. What I am trying to point out again is that it is true.. no matter how wealthy and secure you are, it cannot make you happy.
Personally, I have never been happier in my life than I am right now. I know Jake and I won't have a lot of money to start out with, or who knows... even end up with, but I know that we are happily in love. I have really thought about my mom's advice: since we are starting out with nothing it gives us the perfect opportunity to not get a lot. It sounds funny, but what she means is that we can really think about what we need in our home. The more you have, the more time you have to spend cleaning it or repairing it or stepping over it (that's if you really have too much and its overtaking your space) I am not worried about having things because I know God will provide what we need. He knows what we need more than we do. An example of this is that the generous gifts Jake and I have been receiving!! First of all, one night when Angie's parents were over at the Barney's, Jake and I opened the mail and found out we had to put a 100 dollar deposit for housing within that week! now, money is tight and we could have scrounged for it, but God was gracious and Angie's parents very generous and without knowing we needed to find 100 bucks they had given us each a graduation card with 50$ each! we were both very happy and excited to see how God was taking care of us. He cares even about the small things. Which brings me to another example. As I said, Jake and I are little church mice and have been on the receiving end of many generous gifts. Our favourite right now is THE COUCH! we have 2 smaller love seat couches which were scooped up from friends when school let out for the summer. We had been wanting a bigger couch (like a three seater) but wasn't worried about it. Angie's parents knew someone that was giving away their couch and told them that we might be interested, so Jake called them up. We got the couch and its so cool because its a sectional, which I should explain Jake and I both had been wanting to have since we admired his grandma's couch. But this couch is so much more than even that! It sits five people, its big and comfy, its a sectional so it will fit nicely in the corner, it has a pull out bed for our guests, it has a recliner AND it has vibrators for a massage!! HAHA so cool, oh and I almost forgot it also has a pull down drink holder! I can't believe I am this excited about the couch! I haven't even seen it yet, but Jake assures me i will love it! I feel as though I have gotten off topic. Our life is what we make of it. Jake and I share a very special bond that no one can ever break and a love that goes deeper than anyone can see or understand. God has brought us together and we will always be there for each other, experiencing life, its ups and downs, together. Jake makes sacrifices for me, moves to sit beside me in a restaurant when I am sad and listens to me, very patiently I might add. My wonderful Fiance is so much more than I could have asked for in a husband and best friend. He is so faithful, he knows what I am like on my good days and bad days and even worse days and he loves me on all those days and lets me know it. Jake believes that if we continue to remember to Cherish each other we will have a great marriage. That along with prayer will lead us in the direction of a very happy, playful, committed, joyful, fulfilling, lasting marriage. I have never stopped thanking God for choosing Jake for me. I am the richest woman in the world.

Thursday, April 8, 2010

What's in a Name?

SO my blog has a new look as well as a new title.
Melissa means "Honey Bee" and this was the reason I chose to rename my blog this.
What does your name mean?

PS- check out the Honey Bee Wedding and Pets

Tuesday, April 6, 2010


Check it out all my friends!!

I have opened my store called Honey Bee Boutiques.
This is where I plan to sell things new and used. I will be selling craft supplies, home-made cards, digital stamps and home decor things. I will mention in my blog when I post something that I am selling so you will know to check it out if you are interested. I will be getting google checkout this summer, but for now I will just accept checks/cheque or money. Just email me or leave a comment if you are interested in anything you see on the blog.


Use the tab above to visit Honey Bee B. or just click here.
If you are wondering what's with the honey bee.. I chose that name because it is the meaning of my name.

toad a-hop!

Monday, April 5, 2010

He is Risen!

As Easter weekend comes to an end I am reminded that the incredible sacrifice made on that cross is the central point in history. Everything before Jesus' death on the cross led to that event and everything from that point on flows from it. I was inspired from the Beautiful church service on Sunday to write this post. Jesus is ALIVE and I need to share it!

Have you had that awful anxious feeling this week? Worried about finances, loved ones or health? Perhaps you have felt fear. This weekend as my room mates left for home I was to sleep alone in my apartment. I often am afraid staying alone on long weekends when almost everyone is off campus, and this weekend was no different. I had wanted to stay the night at Jake's house but I forgot to ask him before his parents went to bed, so I thought I would stay the next night at his place. I told Jake how it is funny how I wasn't scared when he was with me in the apartment but as soon as he left I would feel a bit uneasy. It's true that I am in the same surroundings and nothing has changed between when Jake is with me and when he leaves, so why should I be afraid? Exactly! Why?? Statistics have proven that most of the things we fear never become a reality. I suppose it is our human nature to worry but as a Christian I know that God is always with me. Many people have different insecurities for different reasons: A young person may be afraid of trusting another person in a relationship because of the divorce of their parents, a child may feel insecure about their surroundings because of a tragic fire that burned their home, maybe the fear of not finding a job or losing he job you have. 2 Timothy 1:7 says "For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline." Fear is more than just an emotion, it is a spirit of torment sent out by the devil which is meant to steal our peace and more than that, question our faith in God. Fear can cause us to not think clearly or to be irrational. When we fear or doubt God we are said to be double minded. James 1:6-8 says, "But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does." God gave us his peace to break free of our fears as Philippians 4:7 says, "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." When God sent his son to be crucified for our sins He gave us a gift that we can accept no matter who we are, not matter what we've done God will forgive us if we ask. When I asked Jesus to be the center of my life and come to live in me at the age of 6 I didn't understand fully the powerful decision I had made that would have changed the way I live and see others and life. I am a child of God and have faith that He will lead me and use me in ways that I can't and don't understand right now. I have confidence that He knows my deepest thoughts and desires of my heart, he will never leave me or forsake me. As a Believer I know that when I leave this Earth that is only the beginning. The beginning of REAL life with my Father in Heaven and fellow believers. So what do I have to be afraid of? We all experience pain, suffering and trials. God uses these to shape us and build our character and trust in him. We worry about a loved one who may be oversees in an area that we consider unsafe, but know that God has your loved one in the palm of his hand, God knows where he/she is at every moment and loves them more than we do. Detroit city is no less safe that sleepy ol' Spring Arbor because God is with us wherever we are. God hears our prayers, we don't have to be afraid. However, if you have not made the decision to follow God and believe that Jesus, His son, died for your sins and has risen then you have every right to be afraid. I can't imagine going through life with out having the firm security knowing that I was created for a purpose, that God loves me unconditionally and hears my prayers, forgives me for all my sins, even future sins that I haven't committed yet and that I will not be in Hell when I die but be taken up to Heaven to spend eternity there with God. How WONDERFUL that will be.
I have to go now, but will leave you with this thought: God loves you the way you are and is the one who created you and knows you better than anyone, He sent his only son to die for YOUR sins and wants you to love him back, ask for his forgiveness and become his child, a child of The King.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Dresses Dresses and more Dresses

How do I decide???
I know what I want for MY dress... but what about my poor bridesmaids!
At this rate they we will have to resort to the paper bag princess look... not really my style.
short, flowy, unique, chiffon type fabric
think...enchanted...fairys! haha.

As for my bridesmaids, it was a hard hard hard decision to decide who would be in the wedding party. Since Jake is only having 3
I thought he was going to end up with 4
I chose my 2 future sister in laws and also friends
and 2 of my great friends from home to represent the group of girls who I love so much.
If Jake had more options for groomsmen, I could have everyone that i want in the wedding. Jake is just the kind of guy who has a few close friends and develops great relationships with them, but doesn't have a LOT of friends. I mean, he does but he only wants the very closest people up there with him.
It's okay though.
It will all work out.

Tonight Jake and I are going to go out for some pizza and then create some "Save the Dates"

Wednesday, January 20, 2010


Dec. 31st, Jake proposed!
to me!
I said yes of course.
I basically just nodded because I wasn't able to find my voice.
I cried alot...very unexpected actually.
The way Jake proposed was so sweet and I Couldn't have asked for a more perfect night.
I just got the ring back today.
It feels a little snug
I may have to get it resized AGAIN!
Now that I have the ring back on my finger I am ready to continue with the wedding planning!
wedding planning...ugh..
sometimes its wonderful! (when things go my way)
and sometimes its a drag (when things DON'T go my way)

My future mom-in-law gave me a beautiful wedding planner
It keeps me organized
I love it!
The wedding is August 21st, 2010 in Chatham Ontario
Reception is being held at Lake Erie.
Pray for a beautiful day please!
The word to describe my wedding is going to be "Enchanted"
Filled with lots of unique personal detail,
It's going to show a lot of who Jake and I are as a couple
Jake is designing the monogram
I am making the invites.. and the save the dates if I ever get to it.
I have a secret suprise that I am working on, that is TOP secret.. so you will have to wait to find that one out.
Also, my dress is going to be a suprise...I think haha.. I don't want to say too much more about that for now.
The colours of our wedding are going to be blue,purples and pinks..
I chose these colours because I was inspired by Lupins (my favourite flower)
Our wedding is going to be laid back and everyone should dress in summery clothes, Khaki shorts for boys and nice shirt and sun dresses for girls.. There will be lots of dancing and fun and maybe even some swimming!

I am going to include pictures that are inspirational to me in planning this wedding and that i hope to incorporate the feel or some of the elements into our wedding.